If at first, you don’t succeed, try, try again.
Then quit.
No use being a damn fool about it. – W.C. Fields

It was fun while it lasted.
I’ve spent more than a year pretending to be a musician. It started out with a few covers at the open mic of the local coffee shop. That first time was a disaster and I vowed that not only would I never sing again, but I also swore I wouldn’t even show my face at the coffee shop. But I was at it again the following week.
Yes, it got a little easier after that first time, but as soon as I started to feel comfortable with the whole performing thing, the bombs would follow. But I persevered.
I went to other open mics. I made friends, many of them fantastic singers and songwriters who were nothing but encouraging. They still are and I’m so blessed to have them as friends.
I performed short sets at festivals and other events. And I have written a few songs, words and music. I made progress, for sure.
I knew I didn’t have a great voice, but neither does Bob Dylan. I had hopes that maybe my songwriting would be engaging. Meh. Maybe the covers that I did would provide some level of entertainment. Not so much. I tend to perform songs of artists I like – Wilco, Avett Brothers, Foo Fighters – but are pretty much unknown to my audience. And when I do a Dylan song, it’s always an obscure choice.
One of my new music friends will admit he’s not the most accomplished guitar player but he is enormously entertaining. He bellows old country standards and writes clever songs. And he always has fun, which is contagious. Everybody loves him.
While my expectations were realistic and modest, my musical career has reached the point where the disappointment in my accomplishments has overcome the joy of playing music. As Mr. Fields advised, no use being a damn fool about it.
I find myself taking that advice in other areas of my life, but that’s another story.
For now, I’m going to refocus on writing. No more novels, which can be just as disappointing as music, despite critical acclaim. But I have several ideas for writing about music based on my new awareness of singing, songwriting, and the guts it takes to put yourself out there. Hopefully interesting to my faithful readers, and a little more satisfying for me.
November 6, 2022 at 8:59 pm
Your contributions to the establishment of a music scene in our town are substantial and praiseworthy. It would not be what it is now if you had not had your oar in the water.
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November 20, 2022 at 9:48 pm
Thanks, Larry.
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November 20, 2022 at 9:55 pm
Filling the jobs you are contemplating now – writing about the music scene and getting gigs booked for acts – this is more important and more essential to the flourishing of the scene than one more guitar picker. I’m not saying that you should quit playing, I’m just saying that your more important role in the whole of it might through the use of certain strengths and leanings that you have that others dont.
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November 6, 2022 at 9:05 pm
I’m not going to like this because I don’t. However, I look forward to reading the fruits of your foray into the world of singing and songwriting.
“The woods would be quiet if no bird sang but the one that sang best.”
~Henry Van Dyke
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November 20, 2022 at 9:48 pm
So I haven’t given up caterwauling entirely. I’ll keep dabbling.
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November 7, 2022 at 7:21 am
It doesn’t matter if you sing, dance, write, do back-handsprings, or run marathons Joe. The key to everything is to enjoy whatever you aspire to be and do. If what you are doing is no longer a joy to you, then you move on to something that is.
Whatever that is, you are you and that is what matters most. Rock on my friend.
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November 20, 2022 at 9:47 pm
I think I’m going to try hip-hop dancing. Always wanted to do that!
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November 7, 2022 at 8:48 am
Good quote, Lee Ann.
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November 7, 2022 at 10:06 am
I hope you at least have some fun with music in the future, in front of an audience or not. It takes a lot of guts to get up there and play, and you should be proud that you were brave enough to do it. You’re always welcome in my little corner of Virginia to hang out and make some good noise. 🙂 Either way, I look forward to reading what you write in the future.
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November 20, 2022 at 9:45 pm
Thanks, Katie. So…after vowing to give up, I honored a commitment to help out my friend to do a few songs who had a two-hour gig at our local coffee shop. I was to the point of not caring anymore and I was feeling pretty down. I let that emotion come through in my music. Turns out that’s a good thing. Positive feedback and comments like “I’ve never heard you sing like that before.” So now I’m not sure I’m giving it up. Maybe just taking some of the pressure off myself. Thanks for the encouragement.
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November 21, 2022 at 2:20 pm
I love this! I hope you don’t give up. I’m rooting for you!
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November 20, 2022 at 9:46 pm
Also, I have a piece of writing I’m working on that you’ll probably find interesting. If I can just finish it.
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November 21, 2022 at 2:20 pm
I look forward to reading it!!
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December 7, 2022 at 9:24 am
Hope to catch you sometime when I’m in town!!!
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